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Take a minute today and think through the word empathy. Empathizing with someone isn’t always natural. Human’s natural tendency is to believe that everyone shares the same knowledge, experience and life that they enjoy.

 

So not true! You never fully know the battles that others are facing.

 

Empathy is different from sympathy, which is pity or sorrow for others’ misfortunes. They share a common root in -pathy, from the Greek pathos, “feeling.” Where they differ is in their prefixes: sym- means “with,” while em-means “in.” If you can empathize with someone, it’s because you have been in their place: you’ve “walked a mile in their shoes,” as the saying goes.

 

So I invite you to take a proactive step towards empathizing with others. This step towards empathy is an opportunity for you to invest into those around you.

 

Choose one of the Drive Planning Programs for Personal Development. Our group sessions allow your team to take a proactive step in bettering themselves.

 

Our programs emphasize:

 

  • Relational Health

  • Physical Health

  • Financial Health

 

Which leads to:

 

  • Better Communication Skills at Home and the Office

  • Greater Productivity

  • An Increased Self Image

  • More Financially Sound

  • Greater Confidence

  • Less Sick Days

  • Weight Loss

  • Increased Patience

  • More Focused

 

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Success can be defined as how well you live your life. Are you living well and maximizing each of life’s moments? Or would your friends describe you as a “Last Minute Lucy” or “Scattered”?

There are certain events throughout the year that you will automatically experience. I want to encourage you to engage now to create the success that you desire. Planning ahead with scheduling and reminders will allow you to create a more deep and meaningful life with a really small tweak.

Being engaged in the important areas of life requires us to identify which areas are important. My practice is based upon research that individuals who are deemed successful primarily excel in three primary areas. We believe that truly successful people are Relationally Rich, Physically Fit and Financially Free. This requires Being Intentional in these areas.

My desire for The Live The Life You Can Afford To Live is to bring you insight that will assist in creating the success that each of us desires.  However, living that life can’t be unreasonable ideas which are out of the realms of anyone’s budget.

Today, I want to focus on an easy way, which fits within anyone’s budget, to Be Intentional by scheduling your successful moments. Planning ahead will allow you to be more prepared and present in life’s big moments.

 

 

Relationally Rich

 

Let’s begin with Being Relationally Rich. One of the primary ways to be Relationally Rich is to utilize Dr. Gary Chapmans, The 5 Love Languages to your advantage. Think about the people in your life and schedule ways to engage them. Advanced planning allows you to think about each person’s love language in order to maximize the experience. Here are some examples of ways to live out The Love Languages.

Now get out your calendar and plan ahead for the important events of this year.

Valentine’s Day –

Make plans 1 month in advance. Dinner reservations and flowers at a minimum. Waiting too late means a lame dinner at a lame place and grocery store flowers. Total Fail!

Worship –

Practically speaking this is supposed to be a constant. For my family I want Sunday’s to be a no brainer, it’s just what we do (ideally no scheduling needed) In addition to Sunday’s make plans to attend/join a small group or special retreats that occur throughout the year.

All Holidays –

Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Easter. Planning ahead will make these times less stressful and more relationally fulfilling. Time allows you to customize the experience.

Birthdays –

Plan now to make these days special. Focus on the love language that drives the particular individual, not what you want for them.

Anniversary –

Plan now. Whether it is a trip, dinner plans or a gift that you make; start early. Below we will discuss making transfers or payments over time towards these moments so that your budget doesn’t impede you from being the husband/wife that you desire. Planning ahead will make you the hero!

Date Nights –

Super important!

Flowers/Gifts –

Place reminders in your calendar now with alerts. Maybe it doesn’t seem romantic, but it is better than getting busy and complacent.

 

 

Physically Fit

 

Physically Fit people obviously look better in their clothes, which we found out through a recent Success Survey was most important to our readers. They also have more patience, get promoted more often and in general are healthier. Each of us wants those attributes but a common EXCUSE that we hear is that there isn’t time. Make time! Schedule it! Here are some examples:

Schedule Walking/Exercise –

Make the plans with someone else and it is more likely to happen.

Plan/Train for an Event –

Sign up for a road race or competition to inspire you.

Air Filters –

Place Quarterly reminders to change your air filters.

Airborne –

Schedule reminders to begin taking Airborne a week prior to any major events or seasonal temperature changes. Airborne Which is a super vitamin jolt that will help your immune system fight illness. Thus, keeping you feeling great year round for more success at life’s important moments.

Doctors Visits –

Be proactive and schedule your medical care. Whether it’s physicals, mammograms, chiropractic adjustments or massage therapy put them on the calendar to make them happen.

 

 

Financially Free

 

Good financial habits over time lead to financial success. Working to automate many of the decisions as possible is important. Let’s make the decision now to do the right things with our money.

Money Transfers –

Schedule or automate transferring money after each payday. Whether making advance payments towards future obligations or simply automating savings will lead to success.

Advisors –

Schedule now quarterly meetings with your advisors; Financial Planner, Accountant, Insurance Agents etc. Consistently reviewing your financial model be beneficial to monitor progress and stay on track.

Taxes –

Place important tax dates (Qtrly) when taxes may be due in your calendar.

Payments –

Automate payments for those essential items. Payments to your mortgages,  insurances or loans etc. You WILL make these payments so automate them to occur. This frees you to be more intentional in the other areas of life.

Essential Household Items –

Automate items such as paper towels, toilet paper, soap etc to be delivered throughout the year. It’s a small thing but it frees you to pay attention to other more important areas and you will save money in the process. Consider Amazon Prime to have these items delivered as scheduled.

Giving/Volunteering –

Automate or schedule your times of giving or volunteering. Life gets busy and money and time get short. One of the major parts of living a successful life for me is living with an open hand. To whom much is given much is required. Make the plans now.

 

 

The examples above are products of my prior misses or call it what it really is….. failures. Learn from my mistakes and plan ahead for these times in life that you will participate in one way or the other. Planning ahead for them will allow you to have more enjoyment while alleviating stress and disappointment. Being Intentional with your schedule now will raise your chances for success.

 

Do you believe that scheduling some of these events will help them to be more enjoyable?

Do you have any practical tips that have helped you to be successful?

 

 

Please continue the conversation with me on Facebook, twitter or LinkedIn.

 

E + R = O

March 10, 2015 — Leave a comment

Over the past year I have been exposed to new business ideas that have enhanced my ability to serve clients and has impacted how I go about life. Possibly my favorite new concept was learned from Jay Geier, Founder of The Scheduling Institute. Jay’s phrase Frustration Leads To Breakthrough seems simple on the surface, but when applied to business often results in new processes that create change. When you are continuously bumping into a problem that is prohibiting you from reaching your destination or full potential this thought forces you to keep searching. Searching for the breakthrough that you need to advance. This continued search also provides you hope. Hope that there is change coming; you just have to seek it out. True success can be elusive.

 

I have found a way to put apply a scientific formula to shorten the time that it takes to reach the point of breakthrough! This equation allows you to turn problem solving into a process. The process will lead you out of the problem area. So read on to learn more about what I have found.

 

Recently, Brent Saunier, CPA shared the concept of E + R = O with me that he learned through his Continuing Education Curriculum. Brent recognizing the potential application to our business and how we serve our clients asked me to further investigate the concept. I am really glad that he did; E + R = O is a game changer.

 

My research led me to a brilliant communicator, Kent Julian. Kent speaks passionately into the lives of teens and many adult leadership groups. Much of his teaching is centered around how the  E + R = O concept. Events + Response = Outcome is a formula that rescued him at an early point in his life, a point in which he now self describes himself as an “at risk youth”. Today, now years later, Kent speaks passionately about how this formula for success has impacted so many lives. Over the past month I have began to apply this formula to a multitude of circumstances in my own life. I have seen a significant impact in creating clarity within a variety of situations, thus leading to breakthroughs both personally and professionally.

 

When applying this formula to a situation begin by asking the question, What would I like to change? Most often times we are looking to change the Outcome of a situation. Whether it is your personal finances, grades, relationships etc that you are looking for that breakthrough or changed outcome, apply the equation. The changed outcome will mean more money, brighter future, greater success which is ultimately a life which is more fulfilled and advancing. If there wasn’t some change in outcome that we were searching for then it wouldn’t be deemed a problem, right?

 

 

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

– Albert Einstein

Focus on Your Response

 

The one variable within any situation that we can control is always going to be “Our Response” to the occurrence or Event (E). Successful people don’t get caught up in the blame game! Blaming the weather, the economy, the government or any outside force or event that they can’t control. Remember, if you want a new outcome you must change how you respond to the events of your life.

 

Examples:

Dental Practice

 

 Example A

Dentist (A) is feeling the pinch of lower revenue. Dentist (A) has spent his entire career in his/her town, doing minimal marketing, and now there is a new dentist in town, Dentist (B), who just opened up down the street. Will it be beneficial for the Dentist (A) to blame Dentist (B) for his loss of revenue? No! Will it be beneficial to complain that they aren’t doing quality work down in Dentist (B)’s office? No!

Remember, Focus on What You Can Control! What Outcome (O) are we desiring? More Money! How do we get more money in a dental practice? More Patients. Our Response (R) has to be centered around acquiring more patients. Marketing leads to new patients, which leads to revenue. The proper Response (R) would be to create a new and engaging marketing campaign.

 

 

Example B

 

I recently met with a dental practice that was frustrated with their accountant of 30 years. They desperately want different results as it relates to their practice’ accounting and financial systems that are in place. They have paid additional taxes throughout the years that could have been avoided. Now they are faced with a decision point. Clearly they want different results, but are they willing to disrupt a relationship that has been in place for so long? and just to remain cordial?

 

Don’t allow yourself to remain with the status quo when change is needed. Face the the point of decision with all of the knowledge necessary to provide you with the confidence that you are making the right decision. Often times we overthink certain decisions which leads to making no decision; which is possibly the wrong decision. Apply the formula and determine the proper response to create the desired outcome.

 

Golf

 

If you have ever spent much time in a golf clubhouse or perhaps are married to a golfer you have heard all of the excuses in the book. The weather, my clubs are old, bad back, the greens are rough…….. and on and on it goes. One of my favorites lines from my college days of working at a Country Club came from our teaching pro, Bob Burke. Bob’s response to a golfer who was claiming that his clubs were to blame for his poor score, “It’s not the Arrows…. it’s the Indian”. Clearly, Bob’s point was indicating that the golf clubs are not to blame; it was his inability to use them correctly that attributed to the poor score. Applying our formula, we would indicate that the Event (E) is golf, the desired change is the Outcome (O) or a better score. The Response (R) for this particular golfer wasn’t to get new clubs or even to blame the old ones. The proper Response (R) is to change his/her swing. Translating that into action items means to get lessons or simply practice.

 

 

When thinking about the different facets of your life whether its health, personal finances or your practice/business finances or relationships; what area is deficient? Is there an area that by applying this formula could lead to the breakthrough that you desire?

 

I hope to hear from you on Facebook, twitter, LinkedIn or Google+ about the success stories that are created from applying the formula!

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