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Intensity vs. Consistency

January 15, 2018
“Wow! That persons intense!” How many times have you heard that about someone? Being intense can be a phenomenal quality. However, In my unique business role I get to “see behind the curtain” of people’s relationships, health and finances. Over the past 20 years I’ve noticed that the intense person rarely has the best results. 



Consider this, you should brush your teeth at least 730 times per year. What if you said, I’m going to be super intense and take a really aggressive approach on this and you were able to knock out all 730 times within the first two months of the year? Would that work out? It’s pretty intense though. 
Intense people often talk about working out and being healthy. Many January Gym Members use their regiment as a point of shaming those who are less intense. However, what we all know to be true in the realm of healthy living is that its best when achieved over time. 20 minutes per day far exceeds the hyper intense 1x per week visit to the gym. 
Certainly I don’t want to give the impression that I’m an advocate for going slowly towards or meekly attacking ones goals. Quite the opposite in fact. However, in this time of year when New Years Resolutions are falling faster than Atlanta Sports Teams I want for you to consider creating life habits not just guilty fallout.
Guilty fallout is the unresolved desires that you stack on top of last years failed or unresolved ambitions. 
Make certain, however, that you are creating the right or even best habits to achieve your goals. I often times see, regardless of intensity, people who are working on tasks or projects that will never lead them to their desired results. This is when having a mentor proves most beneficial; Most importantly being open to hearing and responding to their guidance and a willingness to change directions.
As you get started with your 2018 plans consider techniques which will allow you to be more like the the tortoise from Aesop’s Fable. Steady plodding but all the while gaining on your goal. 
Check out Schedule Your Success or Automation to find some techniques that will assist in your journey. Because we all know that when you plan ahead things generally are more successful. 

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Take a minute today and think through the word empathy. Empathizing with someone isn’t always natural. Human’s natural tendency is to believe that everyone shares the same knowledge, experience and life that they enjoy.


So not true! You never fully know the battles that others are facing.


Empathy is different from sympathy, which is pity or sorrow for others’ misfortunes. They share a common root in -pathy, from the Greek pathos, “feeling.” Where they differ is in their prefixes: sym- means “with,” while em-means “in.” If you can empathize with someone, it’s because you have been in their place: you’ve “walked a mile in their shoes,” as the saying goes.


So I invite you to take a proactive step towards empathizing with others. This step towards empathy is an opportunity for you to invest into those around you.


Choose one of the Drive Planning Programs for Personal Development. Our group sessions allow your team to take a proactive step in bettering themselves.


Our programs emphasize:


  • Relational Health

  • Physical Health

  • Financial Health


Which leads to:


  • Better Communication Skills at Home and the Office

  • Greater Productivity

  • An Increased Self Image

  • More Financially Sound

  • Greater Confidence

  • Less Sick Days

  • Weight Loss

  • Increased Patience

  • More Focused


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Success can be defined as how well you live your life. Are you living well and maximizing each of life’s moments? Or would your friends describe you as a “Last Minute Lucy” or “Scattered”?

There are certain events throughout the year that you will automatically experience. I want to encourage you to engage now to create the success that you desire. Planning ahead with scheduling and reminders will allow you to create a more deep and meaningful life with a really small tweak.

Being engaged in the important areas of life requires us to identify which areas are important. My practice is based upon research that individuals who are deemed successful primarily excel in three primary areas. We believe that truly successful people are Relationally Rich, Physically Fit and Financially Free. This requires Being Intentional in these areas.

My desire for The Live The Life You Can Afford To Live is to bring you insight that will assist in creating the success that each of us desires.  However, living that life can’t be unreasonable ideas which are out of the realms of anyone’s budget.

Today, I want to focus on an easy way, which fits within anyone’s budget, to Be Intentional by scheduling your successful moments. Planning ahead will allow you to be more prepared and present in life’s big moments.



Relationally Rich


Let’s begin with Being Relationally Rich. One of the primary ways to be Relationally Rich is to utilize Dr. Gary Chapmans, The 5 Love Languages to your advantage. Think about the people in your life and schedule ways to engage them. Advanced planning allows you to think about each person’s love language in order to maximize the experience. Here are some examples of ways to live out The Love Languages.

Now get out your calendar and plan ahead for the important events of this year.

Valentine’s Day –

Make plans 1 month in advance. Dinner reservations and flowers at a minimum. Waiting too late means a lame dinner at a lame place and grocery store flowers. Total Fail!

Worship –

Practically speaking this is supposed to be a constant. For my family I want Sunday’s to be a no brainer, it’s just what we do (ideally no scheduling needed) In addition to Sunday’s make plans to attend/join a small group or special retreats that occur throughout the year.

All Holidays –

Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Easter. Planning ahead will make these times less stressful and more relationally fulfilling. Time allows you to customize the experience.

Birthdays –

Plan now to make these days special. Focus on the love language that drives the particular individual, not what you want for them.

Anniversary –

Plan now. Whether it is a trip, dinner plans or a gift that you make; start early. Below we will discuss making transfers or payments over time towards these moments so that your budget doesn’t impede you from being the husband/wife that you desire. Planning ahead will make you the hero!

Date Nights –

Super important!

Flowers/Gifts –

Place reminders in your calendar now with alerts. Maybe it doesn’t seem romantic, but it is better than getting busy and complacent.



Physically Fit


Physically Fit people obviously look better in their clothes, which we found out through a recent Success Survey was most important to our readers. They also have more patience, get promoted more often and in general are healthier. Each of us wants those attributes but a common EXCUSE that we hear is that there isn’t time. Make time! Schedule it! Here are some examples:

Schedule Walking/Exercise –

Make the plans with someone else and it is more likely to happen.

Plan/Train for an Event –

Sign up for a road race or competition to inspire you.

Air Filters –

Place Quarterly reminders to change your air filters.

Airborne –

Schedule reminders to begin taking Airborne a week prior to any major events or seasonal temperature changes. Airborne Which is a super vitamin jolt that will help your immune system fight illness. Thus, keeping you feeling great year round for more success at life’s important moments.

Doctors Visits –

Be proactive and schedule your medical care. Whether it’s physicals, mammograms, chiropractic adjustments or massage therapy put them on the calendar to make them happen.



Financially Free


Good financial habits over time lead to financial success. Working to automate many of the decisions as possible is important. Let’s make the decision now to do the right things with our money.

Money Transfers –

Schedule or automate transferring money after each payday. Whether making advance payments towards future obligations or simply automating savings will lead to success.

Advisors –

Schedule now quarterly meetings with your advisors; Financial Planner, Accountant, Insurance Agents etc. Consistently reviewing your financial model be beneficial to monitor progress and stay on track.

Taxes –

Place important tax dates (Qtrly) when taxes may be due in your calendar.

Payments –

Automate payments for those essential items. Payments to your mortgages,  insurances or loans etc. You WILL make these payments so automate them to occur. This frees you to be more intentional in the other areas of life.

Essential Household Items –

Automate items such as paper towels, toilet paper, soap etc to be delivered throughout the year. It’s a small thing but it frees you to pay attention to other more important areas and you will save money in the process. Consider Amazon Prime to have these items delivered as scheduled.

Giving/Volunteering –

Automate or schedule your times of giving or volunteering. Life gets busy and money and time get short. One of the major parts of living a successful life for me is living with an open hand. To whom much is given much is required. Make the plans now.



The examples above are products of my prior misses or call it what it really is….. failures. Learn from my mistakes and plan ahead for these times in life that you will participate in one way or the other. Planning ahead for them will allow you to have more enjoyment while alleviating stress and disappointment. Being Intentional with your schedule now will raise your chances for success.


Do you believe that scheduling some of these events will help them to be more enjoyable?

Do you have any practical tips that have helped you to be successful?



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